5 Signs You Have Money Blocks (And How to Overcome Them)

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Have you ever felt like something invisible was sabotaging your money?

Maybe you make decent income but never feel secure. Or you avoid checking your bank account even when you know there's money there. Or just when things start going well financially, you make a decision that sets you back.

If yes, you're not broken—you're experiencing what happens when your subconscious programming doesn't match your conscious goals.

I call these money blocks. They're not about math or budgeting. They're about the patterns your nervous system learned about money, usually before you could even articulate what money was.

Here are five signs your subconscious is working against your financial goals—and what's really happening when you experience them.

Sign 1: Spending Money on Yourself Triggers Guilt

You can afford it. You've worked hard. You deserve it. But when you spend money on yourself—nice dinner, new clothes, that course you want to take—immediate guilt floods in.

This isn't about the actual spending. It's about programming that says taking care of yourself is selfish. Or that you're not worth investing in. Or that spending money on joy is frivolous.

What's really happening: Your nervous system learned that your needs don't matter as much as others'. Maybe you watched a parent sacrifice endlessly. Maybe you were told you were selfish for wanting things. Maybe resources were so tight that asking for anything felt like a burden.

Now, decades later, your adult brain knows you can afford it—but your nervous system still treats self-care spending like a threat.

What helps: Notice the guilt. Name where it comes from. Then practice anyway—start with small, guilt-free purchases and work up. The goal isn't to eliminate all guilt immediately. It's to stop letting guilt control your financial decisions.

Sign 2: You Avoid Looking at Your Bank Statements

You log into your bank app, see the balance for half a second, and immediately close it. Or you just don't check at all for weeks. You know you should look, but the anxiety stops you.

This is financial avoidance—and it's not about laziness or irresponsibility. It's about your nervous system protecting you from what it perceives as danger.

What's really happening: Looking at your money triggers anxiety so intense that avoidance feels safer. This usually comes from childhood experiences where money information meant bad news—fights, stress, panic. Your nervous system learned: looking at money = danger.

The problem? When you avoid looking, you can't make informed decisions. You miss things. You stay stuck. The avoidance that's supposed to protect you actually keeps you anxious.

What helps: Schedule a "money date" with yourself—just 5 minutes. Treat it like you're a curious observer, not a judge. Your goal isn't to fix everything. It's to practice looking without spiraling.

Sign 3: You Believe Wanting Money Makes You Greedy

You have this automatic thought: "Money is bad" or "Rich people are selfish" or "Wanting more makes me materialistic." So you unconsciously keep yourself from having it.

This often comes from religious or family messaging that conflated money with evil. But the actual quote is "the love of money is the root of all evil"—not money itself.

What's really happening: Your subconscious created a safety mechanism: if money is bad, then not having money keeps you good. This lets you stay aligned with family values or religious teachings as you understood them.

But it also keeps you stuck—because you can't pursue something you've labeled as morally wrong.

What helps: Reframe money as a neutral tool. List ways having more money would let you contribute good to the world. When you connect money to your values instead of opposing them, the resistance drops.

Sign 4: You Self-Sabotage Right When Things Go Well

You're getting ahead. Bills are paid. You have savings building. Then you make an impulsive purchase, or ignore a bill, or make a decision that sets you back to exactly where you started.

This pattern is maddening—but it's not random.

What's really happening: Your nervous system has a financial "comfort zone"—an income level or savings amount where it feels safe. When you exceed that level, even in positive ways, your nervous system perceives it as unfamiliar territory = danger.

So it creates behaviors that bring you back to familiar (even if uncomfortable) financial territory.

This often happens if:

• Your parents struggled financially and you feel guilty surpassing them
• Financial success in your family was linked to negative things (workaholism, abandonment, pressure)
• You learned that having too much money changes people badly

What helps: Notice the pattern without judgment. When things are going well, expect that your nervous system might get triggered. Practice staying in the discomfort of "more than enough" without sabotaging. That expansion happens slowly, with support.

Sign 5: You Constantly Feel Like There's Never Enough

No matter how much you have, you feel broke. You got a raise—still feels like not enough. You have savings—but it never feels like sufficient savings. The scarcity anxiety never stops.

This is what I talked about in the abundance vs. scarcity blog—your nervous system is locked in threat mode around money.

What's really happening: Somewhere, you learned that money was scarce and unpredictable. Maybe it was. Maybe your family lost everything. Maybe you watched parents stress constantly despite working hard.

Your nervous system decided: I'll never relax about money because vigilance keeps us safe.

The problem? That vigilance keeps you in constant anxiety—which makes it impossible to make clear, calm financial decisions.

What helps: Notice when the scarcity panic is about old programming, not current reality. Ask yourself: "Am I responding to what's actually happening now, or to what I learned about money in childhood?"

That pause—that noticing—starts shifting the pattern.

Money Blocks Aren't Character Flaws—They're Learned Patterns

If you recognize yourself in these signs, you're not broken. You're experiencing what happens when subconscious programming conflicts with conscious goals.

The patterns you learned about money were survival strategies at the time. They made sense in context. But they don't have to run your financial life forever.

Changing them isn't about willpower or positive thinking. It's about helping your nervous system recognize that what it learned about money then isn't what's true about money now.

That work takes time. It takes support. And it happens through repeated practice with someone who gets it.

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